Shaming Goes Both Ways!

It has been a long time, oops. Life has been crazy. We went on vacation, I ate whatever I wanted, I suffered later because my body did not like the food I fed it, good times! With that being said, we did have a fun time on vacation. We ate a lot of yummy food and had great family time. Just thought I would update since one of my last posts I was having a lot of anxiety about the food issue.

On to the purpose of my post today. Fat Shaming is everywhere. As a fat girl, I remember getting disgusted looks, people telling me I was fat, or just the "innocent" comment about my weight. I get it, fat shaming is out there and overweight people have to deal with it everyday. Now, I am seeing the other side of it and skinny shaming is totally a thing. I will say I am guilty of skinny shaming myself in the past. I made many comments to skinny people about how they were tiny. In fact, I did it frequently. I feel like I need to tell every skinny person from my past that I am sorry!

I do not know if it is just worse now or if I am more sensitive to it, but I see it every day! I even have people doing it to me. Last week I was asked twice if I ate anything besides vegetables. Now, that does not sound horrible in itself but it was the non verbal part that made it offending. Their lips curled and they had snark in their voice. I felt so defensive, because I felt like they were accusing me of starving myself. In reality I just worked really hard. I ate plenty of food and I ate nearly everything (in moderation). I also have many friends who are overweight and everyday I see them post memes about how sexy they are, or how only real men can handle their curves, blah blah blah. At the same time the wording implies that anyone without curves is NOT sexy.  I am not going to say they are not sexy, in fact, I find their confidence is awesome. However, why must people put down healthy people in the process? I am getting even more annoyed with it as the days go by. Someday I may lose Facebook friends (OMG, the world may come to an end....or not) over the ordeal, but at least my concious will be clear.

It is a two way street, and I wish we could all just stop shaming each other. In a perfect world I guess, and we do not live in a perfect world.